My Approach to Therapy
Serving Minneapolis, St. Paul, and greater Minnesota, in person and online
I work with adults looking for deeper, more authentic connection with themselves and the people they love.
You may be finding yourself feeling listless and disconnected. Even with people all around you, and friends you know care, you find yourself feeling unseen and unmet. Whether it’s with friends, your partner or in dating, you find yourself longing to feel more connected, but can’t seem to figure out how to find others who want to connect on the level you’re looking for. You show up for everyone in your life, but you find yourself feeling alone and lonely at the end of the day.
You may find yourself struggling with people pleasing, making it hard for you to show your feelings of anger or resentment.
You feel disconnected from yourself too, and this general sense of listlessness and aimlessness pervades your feelings about life. It’s hard to put your finger on what’s wrong - technically “nothing”, but it certainly doesn’t feel that way, does it?
What’s it like working with me?
My work with clients is focused on first building a genuine relationship between us. My clients reflect that they appreciate my “realness” and my ability to deeply listen. I use curiosity, playfulness and my own authenticity to help you explore your heart’s desires. I view myself as your co-conspirator and will accompany you in looking into your own depth with kindness and curiosity. I use a modality called NARM (NueroAffective Relational Model), which is a depth oriented approach that helps us get to the root of issues that may be coming up for you cyclically. We will also get curious about how the things you’re struggling with are connected to childhood. Often needs that went unmet in childhood continue to surface in the struggles and challenges we run into as adults. So we’ll take a deep dive into the past and get curious about what it was like for you as a young person, so we can help you move into the fullest, most adult version of yourself.
Reasons clients come to see me:
Queer & Trans Identity Exploration
As a queer therapist, I really enjoy working with other queer folks looking for support and a space to explore their identity more deeply.
Healing from Complex PTSD & Developmental Trauma
I specialize in working with childhood and developmental trauma, including childhood emotional neglect and abuse.
Exploring Sexuality, Kink or Polyamory
I am a sex positive therapist, and am very comfortable talking about all things related to sex, pleasure, and desire. I enjoy supporting clients in figuring out the kind of relationships that make them feel most alive, whether this is with one or multiple partners, involves vanilla or kinky sex, no sex at all, or endless combinations in between.
Self-Abandonment & People Pleasing
People pleasing, codependence and boundaries are something I love working with clients on! It’s possible to see growth and change around these issues, but we often need some real backup to unlearn these patterns.
Coming Out “Later” In Life
I love working with folks newly coming into queerness, and specialize in working with folks coming out later in life. If you’ve never thought of yourself as queer, but are wondering if you’re not as straight as you thought you were - I’m here for you!